Get to Know Me: Minimalist Goth | OOTD | Mini Style Journey

This is another post inspired by talking to fellow blogger Jarilissima over on her blog, where she noted that I don’t really talk about myself much and in response to which I penned this post about how we cut my pixie: Get to Know Me: Cutting a Pixie Cut @ Home. Let’s do another get to know me post, but this time, more of a personal style evolution one.

By the way. How do you take photos of yourself without cringing?? I am so not used to it and just have no idea what to do with my dangly limbs. I read somewhere that you’re supposed to do something with your hands but if iI try that, I just look like a praying mantis. Plus, how do you take photos indoors? I just have no clue. Any pointers welcome.

I would love to know from you, too: How has your style evolved over the years? What factors (internal/external) have influenced your personal style as time went on? Let me know in the comments.

As a teenager, I always loved goth style and alternative culture, the movies, the books, the comics, horror everything, metal and industrial music. I did not have much money to spend on myself and my mum refused to let me wear what I wanted LOL so I looked really stupid for my entire youth. As a young adult I just got so busy, I was working full time while completing my degrees in the UK and Australia (also full time) and I never really took the time to take care of myself. Probably did not look too refined then either.

Then I got married, worked stupid hours in several jobs, helped put my husband through graduate school, we moved to Korea… And suddenly I was in my late twenties and realised I’d put myself last all this time. 😶

Now that I am in my thirties, I feel so content and settled and am transitioning back to goth as I finally have the time to think about what I like. I’ll still wear colour especially for work but I feel best and most powerful in all black.

Overall, I am most partial to corporate and minimalist goth styles, preferably with bold glasses and thin gold jewellery – but no glitter or sparkles. During the week, I like a full face of foundation, highlighter and cat eyeliner, but on the weekend, I tend to go for a bare face as my skin is much better than what it used to be.

The dress pictured comes with a separate sleeve and is made from a thick jersey material with prominent seams across the bodice. It makes me feel like a sexy android / robot and I am so in love with it!

It is a little cold for Seoul winters though, so I wore it with 150 denier tights plus knee high boots. Chuck two thin long cardigans on top plus a padded vest, add a kimono coat and a scarf so big, it really could double as a blanket, and Bob’s your uncle!

My bag of choice is this backpack, which is actually a laptop bag and comes in super handy as I am not a dainty-handbag-kind-of-girl. I like to bring everything but the kitchen sink and especially when I go to cafes to study on the weekends, it is just the best as it holds all of my note books, laptop charger and pencil case.

For body jewellery, I have had a tattoo and a couple of piercings which I have since had removed or that I have taken out, however the ear piercings have stayed on. Allow me to reuse a few pics from my previous post.

My tragus, forward helix and industrial bar piercings are probably my favourite ones among the bunch and I still want to get more, plus I am thinking of getting my belly button re-pierced. It is getting to be a bit of an addiction.

I am so curious to hear from you! Style is such a personal, individual thing. Hope you enjoyed, let’s talk soon.

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5 thoughts on “Get to Know Me: Minimalist Goth | OOTD | Mini Style Journey

  1. That outfit is so stylish! I like the idea of adding a light colored scarf and light glasses to the black. It’s a juxtaposition that looks very good!

    For picture-taking, I like to set a timer and take a lot. I’m not photogenic, so maybe 1 out of 5 pics will actually be any good 😆 And my style has gone from 90’s jeans-and-tshirt to more feminine and flowy skirts. Still working on it 😉

    I’m loving the minimalist goth. It’s not just a ton of dark makeup, but very sleek and stylish ✨


    1. Awe thank you kindly!

      All black outfits can be a bit tricky as it all tends to blur into one if you’re not careful and mix it up a little with a few accent colours.

      Looking forward to seeing your style evolve over on your blog 💖

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  2. I love the black dress, so unique! The separate sleeve is such a cool accent, leaving that cut-out effect on your shoulder. It really looks great on you! Layering on a couple of cardigans is a great way to look stylish yet still keeping warm. The high boots are also a must when it´s cold outside. Regarding the picture-taking, I can´t be of much help. I love photography and I take all pictures that appear on the blog except for the pictures of myself. I always ask my husband or my son to take the pictures for me, as I don´t have a clue on how to take selfies.


    1. Thank you for your kind words. I love how the sleeve is separate. It makes me feel like an android from Bladerunner and I’m so here for that aesthetic.

      Guess I’ll have to get someone to take photos of me too then haha! Yours are always so professional 👏👏👏

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